Introduction: The complicated thing called Marriage

Hi friends, I took a hiatus from blogging. Just running around doing wifely duties along with looking after the kids. Men , it can take a toll on you if you do not plan well. Hope everyone is doing well.
Today, I am speaking on marriage. When you are single, all you want to do is get a boyfriend,then get engaged and then get married. I remember when I got my engagement ring from my husband I was always staring at it and I loved it so much. I bragged to my friends and was so excited, now I still love it but I hardly wear it because it is heavy and somewhat uncomfortable. My focus now is on the kids and trying to make my marriage work.
Any body that is married and says that marriage is not hard is a liar. Marriage is a tough institution and should not be entered in to lightly. I have heard crazy stories, witnessed my parent's marriage and my own marriage and I know that God alone is the only person that can make a marriage work. Sometimes sef, I say if I had my way i no for marry. Another thing that bothers me is my single friends who constantly call me to ask when there own will come, why is this, why is that not happening for them. I feel for them because of the companionship they want, but I tell them that they should better thank God for where they are. For single folks, honestly my best advice to you is to be happy and build yourself, a man is not what will make you happy, you have to appreciate your self worth and know that God's child and that he has a purpose for you. Then pray for God to build you up to be who he wants you to be and ask him for a husband that loves him first and that will treat you with honor.
Most marriages today have issues from the very start, I feel sorry for people who use pregnancy to trap men,even if the men marry them, the hell they go through in marriage is always a lot because the man can despise the wife because of what she did. Take this story, one guy called Deji married one girl Folake. Folake was a friend of his ex girlfriend and because he had plenty money she threw herself on him. Babe, was fine and was blessed with boobs so the bobo was hooked now.She did not even respect her friend.She moved ahead with him and they started dating, can you imagine that because this guy had money, the girl wanted to get him by all means. After 6months of dating he took her away on a vacation and she thought the guy will propose to her there but he did not. Anyway she now decided to get pregnant for him and when she did, he did not want to marry her , but his family and her family insisted and they got married. Please do you think he loves her? I see the girl and I feel for her, but I cannot blame the guy for treating her so bad, because she did it to herself.She looks fed up and now has 2 kids however the guy hits the club at every opportunity he gets and throws birthday parties for himself and does not even tell the wife about what is going on in his life. I only pray that God works on both of them to restore the marriage. Marry for the right reason and do not trick men into marrying you because once a man desists you, you will be a victim of a loveless marriage and potential abuse. To be contd.